So here is a Top 5 for today,
Top 5 Ways To Be A Great Mom, by Me.
2. Talk to your kids. I talk to my kids even when they don't want me to talk to them (like at 6:30am-lol). I do not always know what they are doing at all hours of the day but I talk to them. I know them. However, I am also not in denial about the fact that might kid might be the bad'un in a group. I'm open for discussion.
3. Don't disown your kids. I don't get this. I don't understand a total cut-off. I can see where if a child is destructive and causes strife in other relationships (like with your spouse) that it might be problematic to have them live with you or over for holidays but a total cutting off I do not understand. It would break my heart. I ache for those that have had this done and ache for those that have felt the need to do this.
4. Forgive your parents. I don't know about you but my parents weren't any more perfect than I am. I have realized that some of the things I "judged" my parents for were undeserved. I have also realized that we all come from different places. We also have different ways of looking at things. There are things that are unforgivable as a parent (certain abuses) but even those things must be forgiven, it doesn't mean you invite them into your life.
And I sure as hell hope my kids forgive me!
5. Live the Example. I try very hard to Live the way I want my kids to live. The strongest voice I have is my example. They might have hoped I was different and emphasized different things in their growing up years (being more organized, for example) but I am me and I like me. If they were to grow up like me I would be happy but I am more happy when I see them being better than me! This is true joy for me in my journey thus far as a Mom.
So those are my Top 5 Mommy-isms for today.
Take them, or leave them.